Set your goals & don’t cheat!

Are these your goals this year?

Hope everyone had a happy Tuesday!

I really wanted to stick to my habit of posting earlier in the day but I also didn’t want to rush content so here we are.

Do you know what your vision is for this year? We are now officially in February, and although January seems to drag, the rest of the year speeds by. I took some time last month to kind of map out my goals and vision for the year. I really plan on being intentional and saying yes only to things that make me happy or get me closer to my goals. In order for me to do that, I need to know what my goals are. I wrote them down in my planner so I can look at them and be reminded of the plan. So now it’s on me to be disciplined and follow the guidelines I set for myself.

Knowing why I am doing something helps me accomplish it faster. One of my goals is to cook more at home and not eat junk food as much. The end of last year got really busy and I slipped into the habit of eating on the road. I know I want to cook more at home because I want to be healthier and therefore my body needs proper nutrition. Thinking of it as supplying my body with the fuel it needs, makes it much easier for me to cook because I feel like I am doing something good for my body, instead of just seeing it as I am not allowed to have something (junk food in this case). In life, there are some rules and boundaries in place that are there to make life easier. For every choice, there is a consequence. You shouldn’t smoke because it isn’t good for you. But we know that there are still people who smoke. Since they didn’t adhere to the rule, they are now at a higher risk of having serious health complications. We know not to touch a hot stove because we will get burned. That doesn’t stop people from touching hot things but they are then prone to the consequences of ignoring the rule.

Honestly, even with my plan, I felt like I was not doing enough and it was only after saying it out loud during a coaching session, that I really admitted to myself that I was playing safe. Running your own business can be daunting. Like it is definitely amazing to be your own boss and see an idea come to life but the details of bringing that idea to life can be overwhelming. It feels easier to just wade in the shallow end rather than jumping in. But what do we really get from that? Growth isn’t found in our comfort zones. It is important to challenge yourself and keep raising the bar because that’s the only way you and ultimately, your business, will grow. It is trying and failing and then trying again (and again) and finally succeeding that makes the difference. You may or may not accomplish your goal on the first try, but if you don’t try, then how will you ever know?

One of my goals this year is to stop shrinking and stand in my awesomeness. There will be a lot of times when I will probably feel uncomfortable and nervous but unless I show up, how will I really know what can be? I have been feeling unmotivated because I haven’t been challenging myself. I know that I don’t like doing routine work so why would I accept doing routine work in my business? I manifested a pretty cool opportunity for my macrame business in October/ November last year. It is an 8×8 foot curtain. I was so excited and got halfway through in no time then took a break due to the holidays. After the New Year, I was dragging my feet to begin again. Then I realized that this was something I prayed for. How selfish of me to look down on the opportunity. I also knew I could do it because I had already completed half so part of the challenge was done. I had to re- challenge myself and now it will be completed by this weekend. It is important for me to spice things up and keep them interesting. Let’s not talk about what I want to do with Tropsical just yet! Just know that those Tropsical pops will be everywhere.

In life, there are things we know we should do to achieve the goals we want. The difficulty is in overcoming our blocks to do them. A crazy comparison came to me earlier. When we go to the gym, we may hire a trainer to help us reach our fitness goals. The trainer will suggest workouts and possibly even advise on nutrition. But we are the ones who have to do the work. If we try to “cheat”, we are not hurting the trainer, we are hurting our own selves. We prolong our journey and the finish line keeps moving. God is like a trainer, He can and will provide guidelines but if we don’t follow His will for us, we are only hurting ourselves. We all need some help achieving our goals.

Cassandra Fleming (FB) started career coaching last year and can help you reach your goals.

Zoya Hyman and Tasheena Maccow Thomas are both wonderful ladies who can assist you to navigate your thoughts and process your feelings.

Claire is hosting a virtual vision board workshop so sign up and complete that vision for 2021.

Just Creative SXM is an amazing event planning company who can turn your dreams to reality.

Floriane Javois is an inspiring makeup artist and is hosting her first workshop in April. Check out “The beauty life by Flo”.

Cameron Cam Era Hyman is a talented creative who launched his “yuh mom” vlog and has started his Black History Month project so be sure to stay up to date.

Namaste Cuisine and Entertainment is a catering company that will have your mouth watering.

Let me stop here for now before this list becomes too long. Whatever your goals are, there are people who can assist you and inspire you. Write those goals down, create the vision and be intentional. Remember, you got this!

Also if there are typos, my screen is cracked (again). My mom is definitely going to hang me. Someone help me to remember to put on my screen protector next time! Thanks in advance

August Review

Happy Saturday!

As crazy as this year has been, we are in August. How are you doing? How are you feeling?

I have had some ups and downs but I am grateful because the average of my ups and downs keep me somewhere in the middle. This year, I was very intentional about making a vision board and even hosted a mini vision board get together. I usually glance at it daily, to kind of remind me what to focus on. Earlier this week, I really looked at it and realized the majority of what I had on my board was taking shape. Obviously, my travel plans are on a standstill. 

I love to plan. I really do! I am that friend who plans out the entire trip. I started using a planner about five years ago and I started with a BUJO (bullet journal) and essentially it was filled with lists and my to-dos. Then I switched to a planner, but could never find one that was quite right for me. With the birth of my son, I switched to a life planner because I felt it gave me enough space while being functional. The downside was the size of the planner, but it has not actually been a problem in my day-to-day. I also have a list of goals for the year in my planner. 

Earlier this week, I took some time to review my vision board and my goals. I was amazed at how much I could check off. I was then motivated to make some new goals. I think it’s important to take some time and daydream about your ideal life. What do you want? What are you doing? Most importantly, how do you want to feel? Once you’ve finished dreaming (and writing it down), start breaking goals down into bite-size pieces. For example, on my vision board I had my macramé. I want the business to be successful. However, wanting it to be successful and actually taking the steps to make it successful are two different things. A breakdown could be as follows: 1. Make macramé plant hangers 2. Advertise/ make known that they were available 3. Be consistent and so forth. 

I believe writing down your goals and then breaking it down into steps makes it easier to visualize and ultimately achieve. I am a visual person, so when I see it on paper I remember it easier. It also helps me make decisions that will contribute to my goals. Do I want to spend money on a nice dinner or reinvest it into the business? That is not to say, don’t treat yourself to dinner but there will be times when a bit of sacrifice is required. Despite how things have been, I have seen a lot of people say that they have been able to check things off their lists.

We are all in different mental spaces right now and if you are going through a tough time, it may be difficult to focus on goals and vision boards. Take the time necessary and seek assistance if needed. You could also start the process and let it motivate you. At one point in college, I literally had “get out of bed” on my to-do list. There is always something to look forward to and it is important to keep that in mind. Even when everything is planned out, you may still find yourself in a funk.  For me, it happens when I feel like things are not progressing as fast as I would like. I usually force myself to review all that was accomplished. 

I want to go back to the garden because it has been a while since I compared gardening to life. With the right care, a tree will grow from a seed. We may start small but with the right care, our dreams can grow into a resilient flamboyant. It takes time for things to grow. Sometimes I plant a seed and it takes so long that I forget what I planted. (I forget what I plant rather quickly but some seeds do take a longer time to shoot). Ultimately, it does not matter how long it took. You have a plant and eventually it will yield fruits or flowers. Stop worrying about how long your journey is taking. It is all part of the process. I spend a lot of time weeding. Your mind is a garden and negative thoughts are weeds. When they pop up, pluck them out. They do not help you.

Take some time this week to review your goals if you already had some written down or sit down and get to writing. Really let yourself dream. No one can hear your thoughts and you deserve to want the best for yourself. You hold your future in your hands. And remember, you got this!

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