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Why are you fearful, oh ye of little faith?

Happy Tuesday!

I am excited just typing those words because 1) I am meeting my self imposed deadline and 2) I am excited about today’s message.

Every time I miss a week, I usually run into someone who randomly brings up my blog. At first I thought it was just God showing me that people do read my blogs but it happened the past two weeks and I was like, maybe that’s God nudging me to sit down and type my blog post. Thank you to everyone who reads my posts and everyone who has subscribed. I am grateful for all of you. Usually when I am not posting, it is because things are a bit difficult but the past two weeks have been good. I did change my schedule a bit so my usual “Dominique- mom- entrepreneur” balance was a bit off. I also decided to take on some more opportunities. There is no science or formula to balance everything. I read once to think of the things we are juggling as balls and determining for ourselves which balls are rubber and which are glass. Some are obvious glass balls and you do not let those drop because they can shatter. Rubber balls can always be picked back up. I dropped a few rubber balls which is not a bad thing. My issue was leaving them on the ground too long.

I was also hesitant to write because there is a new opportunity that I have been excited about. I knew it would be a challenge and did not want to share too much too soon. For the purpose of this story, I will say everything was falling into place perfectly. Now this particular opportunity is also a test of my faith. Anyway, I was over here excited and finally told someone about it last night. Today I had a call and all was well. Then I received an email that knocked the wind out of my sails. My initial reaction was that all was lost. After some deep breaths and a message to the same friend I spoke to last night, I realized God wouldn’t give me this opportunity just to take it away from me. I took a moment and prayed and then that same friend called me and prayed with me. And maybe even more than the prayer she prayed, was her being there and helping me fix my heart’s posture. As I hung up from the call, I received another email. That situation that I thought was hopeless wasn’t so hopeless after all. I’m leaving all of the juicy details for my future blog post with the full testimony.

I have already spoken about making sure you have the right people in your corner. The people who are truly for you will always push you to be a better version of yourself. They will do it lovingly though amd they will be there for the journey. I also want to talk about emotions and our heart’s posture. Our emotions are real but they can be misleading. Today I felt disappointed and sad and I could have wallowed in those feelings. Granted someone was being positive and I was just like “blah” but I realized that I was choosing to be negative. Sometimes we question others’ trust in God because our faith is wavering. Instead of widening the gap, we should pause and check ourselves and see if we are trusting and believing God or trying to handle everything on our own. I am also grateful that I have been surrounded by persons of great faith. The kind of friends who would climb a roof and lower me down to God.

A dream deferred is not a dream denied. Sometimes the storms come to strengthen us. Sometimes we exaggerate a shower of rain to be a storm as well. This week, renew your trust in God. He is still a way maker, miracle worker and promise keeper. He can do above and beyond what we could imagine. If He has brought you to it, He will lead you through it. Also check your heart’s posture. At times, we need to remind our hearts of what we know to be true. Bless your friends. Just because. Pray for them because you never know when they will be the pillars you lean on. Have a blessed week all and speak to you on Tuesday!

You will reap as you sow!


Happy Thursday! (Truth be told, this had to be uploaded yesterday but I forgot to post but yay me for writing it earlier this week. Let me have my small win lol)

Hope you are having an amazing week thus far. I hope this week you plant some seeds and lots of them. I am not talking about actual seeds. Plant seeds of kindness and love. Do something kind for someone from the goodness of your heart.  Help others when you can. A lot of times we think we have nothing to offer because we aren’t where we want to be in our own lives, but sometimes simply being a step ahead is enough to be able to help someone. 

So plant seeds. Lots of them. You never know which one will bear fruit. And most farmers will tell you to plant more than you need because you lose some to the elements, some never shoot and others get damaged or die despite your best efforts. The past few days were an eye opener for me and highlighted to me how we never know when the seed we planted will bear fruit. I planted seeds over ten years ago while I was in college. And I planted them with no selfish intentions. I genuinely wanted to be there for the person. I never even considered it “help”. Yet at a moment where I needed to be uplifted, the person stepped up. Despite my protests, that person poured into me. 

As a giver, I pour and pour into others but to be poured into is always humbling. It has been hard for me to accept the help but I have been blessed with amazing people who have poured into me and allowed me to pour into them. You cannot pour from an empty cup and I believe when you feel yourself getting low, you need to turn to God but keep your eyes open for the ones He sends to help you. This makes me pay more attention to whom God sends for me to bless. When we do good, good doesn’t necessarily come back to us from the source we think it will but it always come back. Your actions are never in vain. 

Remember that seeds all shoot at different times. But no matter how long it takes for them to break ground, their purpose is to bear fruit. Be grateful for the blessings and be thankful when you are the blessing. If you are like me and have a hard time allowing people to be there for you, take this advice I received from Castel: Do not block your blessings and do not stop others from being a blessing. 

Imagine an artist working hard on a painting to gift to a friend and that friend then says they don’t want it.  That is crushing. I have learned that some people look forward to the moment that they are able to do something nice for someone who helped them or treated them nice. It’s selfish to rob them of the opportunity to be nice in return. 

So this week, plant seeds. Be kind to everyone because this year has been tough. Look around and be mindful of those willing to pour into you. If you feel their intentions are genuine then allow them to pour. Sometimes we burn ourselves out trying to do everything ourselves when there are people around who are willing to be there for us if we allowed them. Don’t block your own blessings! I know it’s tough but take it one blessing at a time. Hope you have an amazing week! 

Pray, plan and believe

Happy Thursday! Holding myself accountable by writing and posting this blog. I didn’t forget to post on Tuesday. I have been having a tough week and decided to consider me first but today I felt like I should check in because we sometimes convince ourselves that we are alone when we aren’t. If you are having a tough time, I hope this helps.

I am a firm believer of everything happens for a reason. We may not understand why but over time, things are revealed. It is just hard waiting. I also believe that God is working it out for our good. We just need to remain obedient and disciplined. Audra, one of my sisters in faith, mentioned once that when we are going through difficult times, we should remain silent before calling out to God. Because in our anger, we may say something we wished we had not. So I am not going to share what I am going through now and come across negative or defeated but I will trust and wait on the Lord.

I have taken some breaks from social media because social media platforms are used as highlight reels. when you see others succeeding, it may make you question your progress. I am happy for others but I don’t want to be distracted. I read somewhere that you self- sabotage opposite to your love language. For example, if quality time is your love language, when you self- sabotage, you isolate yourself. I have been telling myself not to isolate and I actually opened up. It was an uncomfortable experience but all new things can be at for at. God has been moving in my life since the beginning of the year and although I am not sure where this journey will take me, I have faith in the One who is steering.

I will be taking some time to review and plan for this next season. The right friends are necessary and I am grateful for those who listen to me and step up when needed. You are not alone and you can get through this. Pray, Plan and Believe.

Life and its’ responsibilities are the raindrops and the water and then there is God (the pink flamingo floatie) keeping me afloat.

To encourage and be encouraged

Happy Wednesday! I know I cut it close but what matters is that I did post on Wednesday. Still trying to figure out the best time to start so I can post on Tuesdays. This week hasn’t gone quite as planned which has caused delays across the board. 

I was never a person that had a lot of friends. I know a lot of people but I actually don’t have that much people checking in on a daily or weekly basis. When I was younger this bothered me a bit especially when I would look at others’ friend circles.  Comparison is truly the thief of joy. The past few years I have learnt that although I may not have friends who are always present, I do have a good group of friends who I can depend on. They have shown time and time again that when they are needed, they show up, no questions asked. Ok, maybe a few questions but you get the point. I know who has my back and I definitely have theirs. 

Since I wasn’t used to having close friends, when I did meet someone, I became protective and a bit possessive. It’s like squeezing your fist tighter to keep water in but in the process the water trickles out. I have held on to friendships that I should have left because of FOMO (fear of missing out). Going above and beyond even when it wasn’t reciprocated. But thank God, I started putting me first. By establishing boundaries and not being so much of a giver, eventually those who weren’t meant to continue with me drifted away. I began meeting likeminded individuals who mirrored similar values and the friendships were reciprocal instead of one sided. And I am not saying I wasn’t sometimes the toxic friend. I have had my faults too. I am working on reaching out to my friends. I tend to get caught up with work and assume their well instead of a quick check in. 

Proverbs is rich with wise counsel and Proverbs 27:9 says that a sweet friendship refreshes the soul. I believe our friendships are meant to help us grow on our journey. Some friendships are only meant for a season and others last a lifetime. The right company is important because the people we spend the most time with do affect our lives. Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”. Are the people around you sharpening you or making you dull? Are they leading you toward God and your goals or are they distracting you? Someone not being a good friend for you does not make them a bad person. Friends are meant to hold us accountable. 

On my faith journey, I have realized the importance of Christian friends. They offer me space to discuss my faith and any questions I may have. Sometimes I need biblical reminders and they are there and quick to assist. It is easy to get caught up with worldly things and they remind me of Christian principles. It hasn’t been super easy to find people who are on similar paths. Imagine having a hobby and not knowing anyone else who likes the hobby or knows about it. When you do meet someone who knows about it, you can exchange knowledge and ideas. That is not to say that you only need friends who like the same things you do. It’s also important to respect everyone’s choices.

This week, reach out to that person who has been on your mind. You never know what may come of it. Appreciate the friends you have and be open to making new ones. Most times we psyche ourselves out of great friendships. Do something nice for someone you know. Invite someone out. Exploring adult friendships can be scary because we all have some trauma from past friendships but it’s a beautiful thing when two people connect and help each other shine. We all need support on this journey. Have a great week and I will check in with you next week!  

Checking in…


Happy Saturday! I really wanted to post this week and I used last week’s late posting as a buffer so here is another Saturday blog! I will do my best to get my usual Tuesday one out this coming Tuesday. 

A lot of times my topic comes to me through my readings and reflections but to be honest, things have been busy. Maybe I should give you all an update and introduce you to me because I have a lot of new subscribers that may not know much about me. My name is Dominique obviously and I am an entrepreneur and single mom of two who loves to read, spend time in her garden and loves her kids. I have two dogs and a rabbit and secretly want a mini farm. (Shh, keep it between us). Tropsical is my company and we make ice pops (paletas), boozy pouches and other yummy frozen treats. I also help my parents with their businesses so you can imagine, things get hectic. I am learning and growing as a Christian. The journey has been challenging but also rewarding. 

I have written blogs about consistency yet my blog postings have been inconsistent. As I think about it, there really is no reason not to be consistent with my blogs. So I will try to do better, I used to post on Tuesdays pretty consistently so I will keep the Tuesday/ Wednesday post date. If you don’t see a blog by Thursday, please feel free to message me! I really think it is time for me to get my planner to keep me organized. I have been getting things checked off of my to do list and sticking to my budget. I finally got my Apple Watch synced to the new phone (it literally took the entire day). And for the past two weeks I have been pretty consistent with closing my rings. These days I am more active than I was before but I am also incorporating stretches and walking until I can get back to the gym. 

Earlier this year, I was contacted by an auto dealership to partner with them as a brand ambassador and as part of that, a couple months ago, I directed and starred in a vehicle commercial. The video hit 70k views last week on the videographer’s YouTube channel so that is pretty amazing. I still don’t know how to feel about it. I have a few other projects that I want to work on but the end of the year is about to be a busy time for me and I don’t want to stretch myself too thin. 

I was speaking to a friend of mine about parenting and re-parenting your inner child. We have all gone through something that we consider traumatic. Sometimes that inner child is still waiting for validation or love and we have to step up and honor them. It’s also challenging to navigate your past while trying to ensure that your kids’ present isn’t traumatic. The work is necessary though, setting healthy boundaries and helping them to have the confidence needed to speak up and not learn certain behaviors. Be gentle with yourself if you are re- parenting yourself or think you are having a hard time parenting. You won’t always get it right but being honest about it will help you get through it. Be open for feedback and communication in general. 

That’s about it for me for now, if there is anything you would like me to discuss or something you want to know more about, please feel free to leave a comment.  Look out on Tuesday for the new blog

The past couple

Who do you serve?

Matthew 6:24

No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money. 

Starting this week’s blog with a bible verse that has been playing over in my mind a couple of days now. It was interesting that this verse shows up in Matthew and Luke. As if it was so important that it needed to be repeated. I know the verse mentions money but I feel like in this modern world, there are a lot of things that replace money. But the principle of the verse remains the same. You cannot serve two masters. You can’t serve God and give in to worldly things. I feel like society is riddled with false idols and people try to connect them to God to make it OK. 

When we try to multi task, studies show that you can’t give everything the same amount of effort. So while you think you are getting things done, you are not giving your best. If I am trying to have a relationship with God and balance an active social life, one of the two things will dominate my time. But both won’t be equal. I am not saying you can’t do both but you need to be aware of your priorities. Time is limited and we need to spend it wisely. If I have twenty minutes to spare, I could either pray or scroll through Facebook but I cannot do both. If I constantly choose to scroll through Facebook that will impact my relationship with God negatively. 

I have mentioned before that discipline is necessary. This blog should have and could have been posted since Tuesday but I kept procrastinating and focusing on other things from my to do list. Those things needed to get done but because I put them first, something else didn’t get done. I have been trying to avoid calling myself a Christian as I feel as if the title is heavy. There are so many misconceptions and I also don’t want the responsibility that comes with it. But this journey has taught me about grace. I am a Christian and I am human. Obeying God is not always as easy as 1,2,3. God knows this and He isn’t asking us to be perfect. He is asking us to show up and try. 

Our lives are a series of choices and we are in control. If there is something happening in our lives that we do not like, we can change things by making better choices. We can choose to be disciplined and stick to our priorities. Go with an open and willing heart. God knew we were imperfect yet He died for us. Instead of beating ourselves up when we fall, we should turn to God and ask Him for His forgiveness and grace. We can change and we can always change for the better. 

Do not attempt to serve two Gods because we know how that ends. Seek Him first daily and stand strong in faith knowing that He is a way maker, miracle worker, promise keeper, and a light in the darkness. 

Gratitude & Grace

Happy Wednesday! 

I had an amazing day yesterday: I meal prepped the night before so the dogs and I had something to eat. I made the kids biscuits in the morning, minimal fussing by Malachi, my 3 year old not to go to school and everyone made it to school or work on time. I was busy on the farm in the morning, completed a favor for a friend and deliveries for Tropsical in the afternoon. Sounds like a typical day really but after weeks of feeling like I have been in a fog and not as organized as I usually am, yesterday was a big win and I will celebrate that. Especially since I know so many people who are still struggling through their days dealing with all kinds of pains. Life is short and I am learning to embrace the normal days. The days when I feel like I have it together because the days when I don’t feel that way hit hard. 

“Let it go” from Frozen should be everyone’s soundtrack. We all learn on different levels and at different times that we need to let things go. And it’s easy to say it but sometimes it is hard to put it into practice. I have been mad at a friend of mine. I forgave them for hurting me but I realized I was mad. I was mad that they changed and I felt bamboozled. This week I realized I have to let that anger go. That friendship situation was a disappointment however my anger won’t change what happened. God has granted us so much grace and it is that same grace we must offer others. Hurt people hurt people and that’s why it is so important to heal ourselves. 

It is also important to regularly evaluate ourselves and our growth. Are we achieving our goals? What are the roadblocks we are running into that we can change? Are we surrounding ourselves with the right people? The company we keep does play a role in our way of thinking. At first, there isn’t much difference but as time goes on, the influence increases. Make sure you are surrounded by people who are going to help you grow and not remain in the same spot forever. Everyone should be motivating each other and helping them reach their goals, not just partying. 

It is easy to get distracted, especially with so much happening in the world. Having the right mentality and lowering or eliminating distractions is important. Do you really not have time to accomplish that goal or could you reduce the amount of time you spend scrolling on social media? Down time is important but be sure you’re not using that as an excuse to slack off. You would be surprised how much work you can get done in twenty minutes. Keep enriching your mind by reading books, listening to podcasts or watching YouTube videos. Find what works for you and incorporate it into your day. Be mindful of the information you are consuming. 

We all know that life isn’t always easy. The beauty is in the journey. Learning what works for you and building on that foundation to reach your goals. Celebrate the good days and love yourself through the bad days. You have made it this far and there is still so much more for you to accomplish. You are worthy, you are amazing and you are capable. And remind yourself daily  when you wake up, no matter what may happen, you got this! 

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Happy Tuesday! 

I feel like it’s been a little while since I posted on a Tuesday so decided to push myself and get this out there. I believe in finding balance in life. Some days you push and get things done and others you take it easy. 

I lost a cousin two weeks ago and it has been hard. This was someone I grew up with and even though we weren’t that close now, it still hits home. As always death makes us reflect. Life is fragile and we never know when it will be our turn. Although I believe I have come to terms with death, grief is another beast. There are no words to comfort grieving family members. I have turned to prayer. I do believe God comforts the broken-hearted. 

Becoming an adult seems so fun until you are an adult and you realize the full depth of responsibility. I’ve reached that age where I need to check the obituaries because I either know the persons or know someone in the family. And I wonder how others did it. I look at my grandmother and consider how much funerals she has attended and how much more she would have liked to attend. I am a witness every time my parents hear of another friend’s passing. COVID is also taking lives rapidly. 

These losses quietly push me to do and be better. I want more from life. I want to also be able to enjoy life. Death is making me evaluate my priorities. What’s really important in the grand scheme of things? No one really teaches you how to move on with grief but I believe as time goes on, it makes you stronger and pushes you beyond your comfort zone. You learn to live with this treasure chest of memories. Some days they will make you smile and other days you will cry. But they are reminders to go out there and make memories with your loved ones because ultimately that’s all we have. 

I just want to add that it’s O.K if things fee heavy right now and you feel like you are walking through mud. Just keep your head up and keep taking one step at a time. Remember, you can waste your life away in a dark room or you can make the most of it. Do something that makes you happy. Every single day. But also learn to honor the sadness. It is O.K to miss someone. It is O.K to feel hurt. We’re human. Acknowledge those feelings and let them continue on their journey. Don’t hold them hostage. Feelings are meant to be felt, not bottled up. 

I pray you have an amazing week and you find something beautiful in each day. 

R.I.P Laurie, R.I.P tantie Yvonne, R.I.P Jason

Write, write, write… or type, type, type :)

Happy Wednesday!! 

Today’s blog will be a little bit different. My kids are getting ready for back to school and that has caused me to think about organization. Nothing is wrong, I just feel like I need to do a little spring cleaning in the fall. Lately, I have been caught up in #OrganizingTikTok and let me tell you, those fridge makeovers are so satisfying. 

I looked at my current organization system and although it wasn’t bad, I realized there were some areas that could be improved. I ordered some bins for Tropsical but they didn’t work out and I realized I could use them at home instead. It’s only two bins but that is a start. I also saw some other ideas for snack storage that I want to implement. I’m usually the one packing the lunch bags but I am hoping to make it simple enough that my three year old can help. 

I recently took a short break to review how Tropsical did this summer and how to move forward. There are some small changes and lots of improvement coming. It is always good to take a moment to see where you are and review where you want to go. I have learnt a lot this past year and some things are smoother. The goal is to continuously improve so I can continue providing quality to my customers. 

My mom always told us: “there is a place for everything and everything in its place” and I think this advice is key. Tropsical has been streamlined because of organization. My home and thus my routines run smoother when everything is organized. Sometimes life can get hectic and things get misplaced but that is why it is important to review. I love making lists ( my regular readers already know this). I believe lists make things so much easier. Write your goals, write your wishes, write your grocery list, write, write, write.  Having it on paper or typed in your phone makes it easier to remember and eliminates you forgetting stuff. Also what I have learned is that sometimes we start a process and that process gets broken down into different parts and of we aren’t aware, we may forget where we are in the process.

For example, I need to start working out at home. One thing that kept me accountable was my Apple Watch. After all of my phone issues, my watch ended up in a drawer. But when I made my list for my fitness goals, one of the points was to charge my Apple Watch. Then there was “sync watch to phone” and so on and so on. As a mompreneur, most days I get about halfway through my list. If I don’t keep track of where I am at, then i would rarely complete a task. For instance, I remembered to charge the watch but I haven’t synced it yet.  When you have a certain goal in mind, routines and habits help you achieve that goal. Implement other systems to keep you accountable such as lists.

 (By the way, I need a new planner- mental note)

So this week, take some time to take stock of where you are and which goals you want to accomplish. Write them down and then create a system that works for you. It doesn’t take much to start. Just pen, paper and your imagination or phone and imagination. Have a great week and be sure to follow me on social media (Instagram: @motherlovingdiva) and let me know what your goals are and how you plan to accomplish them. 

#WaitontheLord


Hi everyone! I was really tempted to post my blog last night but I was caught up in my feelings and decided to wait. Last night my feelings would have driven the vehicle and I had no idea where we would have ended up. Today I am more focused and to be honest, I don’t even remember what had me in my feelings last night. 

A couple years ago I remember telling someone that God was doing a great thing in my life and that by the following year, I would be in a different place. That was after a breakup so the place I was talking about was more a shift in mentality than an actual change of location. A few days ago I was reminded of how much my life changed that year. I never expected the journey to be what it was but I was in a different place and everything worked out for my good. I am an entrepreneur and in control of my schedule. Things I had only prayed for. There have been numerous other times where God came through on a promise He made. He truly is a promise keeper. 

My friend Flo also posted a video on Instagram stories yesterday after seeing a meme about living in the middle of one of your prayers. She mentioned that a lot of times we get so caught up on achieving more that we forget that where we are now isn’t where we were. We kind of take the mundane moments for granted but that is where we grow and evolve. My company is not where I want it to be but guess what, I’m no longer an employee. That is something to be celebrated. Gratitude unlocks more blessings and ingratitude blocks your blessings. Every day try to write down 3-5 things you are grateful for. Whenever you feel like writing more, do so. 

I have been granted numerous opportunities this year and I am grateful for each one. The most recent one is an ad for the new 2022 Hyundai Creta (will post link below) and I am so proud of how it all came together. What is for you won’t pass you by. We get so caught up with FOMO (fear of missing out) and it can sidetrack us. As you wait on the things you do want, work on the things that you can and keep taking those steps forward. Slow progress is still progress. Not trusting yourself to get something done is not trusting God that it can get done. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us and He gave us not a spirit of fearfulness. If God puts the desire on your heart, He will see it through. Be obedient and disciplined. 

Another thing that causes us trouble is our impatience. We want everything now. And in a society where instant gratification is always only a few feet away, it can be easy to be distracted. But keep your focus! What is for you won’t pass you and it will arrive right on time. Gardening teaches you patience. You plant a seed and you have to wait. Wait for the seedling. Wait for it to grow. Wait for the flowers or fruit. But yet throughout the process, the plant is still the plant and receiving what it needs. I planted seeds once and when I was thinking nothing was going to grow, out popped seedlings on different days. Had I been in a rush, I would have thrown away perfectly good seeds. So just because you don’t have something right now, doesn’t mean you won’t have it. 

Have faith, trust in the Lord and be patient! Have an amazing week! 

P.S: Thanks to Etheleen for the title!

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